Couplehood...and How to Strengthen Bonds with Balanced Questions

After a few years, it happens. The questions in your head begin to wander to the “what ifs”, especially during difficult times.

That is natural for any couple. But something happens with some couples and they don't let these questions go.

You know what happens when you ask yourself a question over and over again?

You start coming up with answer to those questions.

So let's get some questions going that will actually help you move forward with dignity instead of falling into painful partner patterns!

  1. 1.What can I do today that will begin to fix this problem?

  2. 2.How can I support (my partner) through this difficult day/time?

  3. 3.What did I first notice about (my partner) that made me feel a connection?

  4. 4.How can I reconnect with (my partner) and discover new aspects of (him/her)?

  5. 5.What can I notice about (my partner) today that will delight me?

Write these on your bathroom mirror and read them every time you are in there for the next 10 days and see if you start to notice yourself feeling more compassionate towards your partner, more connected.

You can modify these questions, personalize them, make them your own. Read them, though.

Do not TRY to come up with answers. Just keep asking and you will come up with answers that feel spontaneous. These answers are not spontaneous. They are the truest, purest, best answers because they come from deep within you.

Trust yourself first.

Be well,


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